Before I send in my computer I thought I'd leave you with this little beauty of an irritation. My dad sent me this little gem- TWICE!! And I sent him an email back telling him what a jerk I thought he was for doing it. Then he told me how my reply hurt his feelings. Then I told him, well then, we're both in the same boat- so quit sending me this shit!
A while back he was complaining about how Mom does not fulfill her wifely duties. He went on to list what he felt were those duties and all the ways he felt that she violated them (uh, it was pretty much this "good wife guide"). I asked him if that's what he wanted for me. To be a "good little wife" and do whatever my husband told me to do. To cook all his meals and make sure that he's happy before all others, including myself, and even, God Forbid...My FATHER!!
He stammers a little and finally replies, "Well, no. Not you. It's not the same."
"How so?" I ask.
"Well, because you're my daughter."
"Don't you think that all these other women are somebody's daughter?" I ask.
He gets really flustered because he knows once again, I've got him. He hates arguing with me because I always win. And not just out-argue him, it's that he knows I'm right. And I'm not afraid to stand up for what I believe is right- no matter who I have to go up against. He once told me that was one thing that he most disliked and most admired about me. He said he liked that I could take care of myself and he never had to worry about me, but he didn't like it when it was used against him. You're not the only one, Dad.
Here's what he had to say about it in the email he sent me: By God Fred I like it.
Let's keep this one going.
Here's what I sent back to him: Dad, you already sent this too me awhile back and I already told you how offensive I thought it was. What kind of message are you trying to send me, anyway? This is a description a slave, not a wife. I'm disappointed that you don't have more respect for me as a woman. Your Loving Daughter, Sylvana
He calls me a man hater- I call him a woman hater. He says that's just the way it is and the way it's supposed to be. I told him that's what they said about slavery. I doubt he'd feel I got him on that one. He's not entirely against the idea.
Here are a few gems that I particularly find interesting in the article:
*Third bullet- "Be a little gay and interesting for him." Well isn't that every man's dream?
*Sixth bullet- "After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with emmense personal satisfaction."
*Seventh bullet- "They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part" They are people, not things to gawk at.
*Tenth bullet- "Let him talk first- remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours."
*Fourteenth bullet- "Don't complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day."
But the last two are the most insidious! "Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgement or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him" AND FINALLY- "A good wife knows her place."
Well, I have just got myself sufficiently pissed off enough again that I can't really think of anything else to say that doesn't involve mostly profanatory rambling. But it should be no mystery that I think this is pure and utter BULLSHIT! And you'd better damn well be prepared to defend any support for such nonsense.
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I'm glad it was intended as humour ;) even if it held a grain of truth for your dad.
Good luck with your computer!!
June 04, 2005 10:48 AM
You had to use the word 'hijack'? Now you're on the watchlist...if your dad hasn't submitted your name to Big Brother already.
June 04, 2005 10:54 AM
I'm glad he was joking. People who are serious about that kind of stuff are scary. Like my ex-husband.
June 04, 2005 11:10 AM
"Paw," I like that!
Guess he was trying to 'git yer dander up?'
June 04, 2005 11:32 AM
sorry to post in this spot, but my friend pero sent me thus in e-maul and i thoight i'd share it with you...peace out: Adult Stem Cell Breakthrough Ignored
The results of the four-year research project showed that olfactory stem cells can be turned into heart cells, brain cells, nerve cells – indeed, almost any kind of cell in the body – without the problems of rejection or tumors forming, a common side effect with embryonic stem cells
**This is the dirty little secret about stem-cell research.........Adult cells are more viable, and proven --> Embrionic cells are extremely volatile and have proven nothing, except to be frustrating.
But putting our money and hope in adult stem-cells would take the fun out of creating and killing fetuses
June 04, 2005 6:37 PM
He wasn't joking. Like I said, I know him too well. He says it was meant as humor simply to spare himself my wrath, and possibly to try and make me feel foolish to boot- which he will not and I will not. He may be fooling all of you, but he can not fool me. And I'm still pissed.
June 04, 2005 9:56 PM
You know what else pisses me off? Comments like Mark's. (warning sarcasm ahead): Yeah, I just get giddy at the thought of creating and destroying fetuses. In fact, it has almost surpassed blogging as one of my favorite pasttimes. In fact, I have to go if I am going to get all these fetuses destroyed before bedtime.
June 04, 2005 10:07 PM
I thought Mark's comment was spam.
How non sequitur.
June 04, 2005 10:56 PM
My dad does the same thing and he too passes it off as humour. I won't get into details what, but I don't find it funny at all.
Spam on blogs. Now I have seen everything.
June 05, 2005 9:26 AM