What Will the Neighbors Think?

Tuesday, February 21, 2006 | 0 Comments

I was making bhajis and needed mint for the sauce. I was not about to pay over $3 for a package at the store. I knew my neighbor had grown it this last summer, so I sent my son over to see if I could get a couple tablespoons from her.

My son comes back a couple minutes later without a coat on (!!!) carrying a plastic sandwich baggie with a small handful of greenish dried plant material in it.

SSB turns to me and says, "Uh, doesn't that baggie look a little... suspicious? I wouldn't be surprised if the cops showed up here in a few minutes looking for weed."

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Blogger "AG" said...

Well??? Did you feel funny after eating the bhajis??

February 23, 2006 7:05 AM

Blogger Shannon said...

LOL!

February 23, 2006 8:40 AM

Blogger Sylvana said...

AG, yeah, but I'm pretty sure that it was just gas. Cauliflower does that to me.

Shannon, :D

February 23, 2006 8:59 AM

Blogger sands of time said...

Thats funny

February 23, 2006 1:25 PM

Blogger Sylvana said...

Pink Lady, It's not like we are potheads, but I'm pretty sure that some of our neighbors would be quick to think it!

February 23, 2006 4:32 PM

Blogger Otto Man said...

So what happened with the coat? Did your son trade it for the, uh, "mint"?

"Hey! I need closure on that anecdote!"

February 28, 2006 11:23 AM

Blogger Sylvana said...

Otto Man, I swear everyone must think he's being raised by crackheads the way he runs around with out the proper clothing and he wears the same thing 5+ days in a row!

February 28, 2006 4:52 PM

Conversations At Our House v.9

Monday, February 20, 2006 | 0 Comments

[10:10pm watching ice dancing]

Sy: This couple is the best yet.

SSB: Do you think that they have the better ones toward the end?

Sy: Maybe. That's mean. They make you stay up late to see the good stuff!

SSB: Yeah, they really should revolve the Olympic schedule around America.

Both: [incessant giggling]

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Blogger evilsciencechick said...

EXACTLY!

and what the hell was up with all the falling? stupid falling, too.

lots of icy chaffed butts on ice dancing tonight.

February 19, 2006 11:23 PM

Blogger Sylvana said...

ESC, I felt worst for that one girl who fell on her hip. Did you notice that the guy was always all apologetic and consoling afterwards whether he was at fault or not (mostly not) and the girl would be giving the "I'm with stupid" looks.

February 20, 2006 8:23 AM

Blogger DrMax said...

I only watch ice skating for the crashes.

February 20, 2006 1:20 PM

Blogger sideshow bob said...

USA! USA! USA!!

February 20, 2006 7:26 PM

Blogger Sylvana said...

DrMax, then you definitely should have been watching last night!!

SSB, well, we were the best ones.

February 20, 2006 7:55 PM

Blogger Godknows said...

Good question evilsciencechick . enjoyed your blog.

February 20, 2006 10:09 PM

Blogger Sylvana said...

Godknows, welcome to my blog! I'm trying to figure out why you seem familiar. I KNOW NOW! I have you rolled on my review blog! Keep up the great work! And I think that I will try those chicken wings, but what is "chicken powder"?

February 20, 2006 10:42 PM

Sy's Gotta Hot Date Tonight

Saturday, February 18, 2006 | 0 Comments

As you may know, SSB and my 15th anniversary was the 15th of February . But, since it was a Wednesday, we decided to wait to celebrate it on the weekend. That would be now. Tonight.

We had considered getting a couple's massage, but they were booked, so we will be doing other things. I'm actually not sure what yet.

Movie?



Bowling?



Mini-golfing?



Vandalizing?



Wreaking mayhem?

I know we will be eating at some point, but I'm not even sure where. I think this will just be a night where we just wing it. Those nights usually end up being the most fun anyway. (Remind me to tell you the story of our college break trip out to Maine.)

We got a place to stash JD so we can be out ALL NIGHT!!

Course it is supposed to be -10F (-20F with wind chill-- at this point that's "F" for "Fucking Cold!!") tonight, so we might end up coming home early to snuggle by the oh, so romantic space heater. A little champagne, a couple of dogs, a big warm blanket, our cushy harem couch... doesn't that sound fabulous? Yeah, we know how to live it up.

You should all go here to read my sweetie's lovely tribute to me.



Wish us luck on our ventures, and DON'T WAIT UP FOR US!! ;P

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Blogger sideshow bob said...

I found a couple places for mini-golf that aren't too far out of the way...but I think it's a little too cold for mayhem. Unless we can do it from inside the car.

February 18, 2006 1:51 PM

Blogger Sylvana said...

"...too cold for mayhem."? Now that's Fucking Cold!!

February 18, 2006 2:00 PM

Blogger DrMax said...

-10 F huh? I'd advise against streaking.

February 18, 2006 4:03 PM

Blogger SierraBella said...

Hope you both had a wonderful night! Actually, snuggling sounds like a perfect way to celebrate.

February 19, 2006 1:24 PM

Blogger Gerbera Daisy said...

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!!! I hope you and your hubby had a great time. :-)

February 19, 2006 5:42 PM

Blogger Sylvana said...

DrMax, we haven't streaked in years.

Sierrabella, snuggling was the best part of the night.

Gerbera Daisy, thanks. It was interesting and fun.

February 19, 2006 7:50 PM

Blogger Shannon said...

At first, I thought you said "Smuggling was the best part of the night."

I vote for delayed "mayhem." Now you have an excuse anytime it's warm to make up for lost time.

Happy Anniversary.

February 21, 2006 11:24 AM

Blogger Sylvana said...

Shannon, we did participate in some pseudo-mayhem. We drove up to a refinery at around midnight. I took pictures while SSB kept a look-out for the feds.

February 21, 2006 6:20 PM

Dude, I'm Not Retarded!

Thursday, February 16, 2006 | 0 Comments

I am really smart and can learn things quickly, yet I also can seem a little retarded sometimes. So, when people don't know me well and don't know what I truly am capable of, I often get this look.

A look that says, "Are you on something?"

Or, "Did you eat paint chip sandwiches as a child?"

I've never been tested for ADD/ADHD, but it runs in my family and I have always suspected that there has been something...er... different about me since about, well, kindergarten. Once I found out what ADD/ADHD was, it all kind of made sense to me.

It really became noticeable when I went into junior high and had to move from class room to class room and they quit giving you time in class to get your work done and hand it in right away. I couldn't keep track of everything. I relied on a person in each of my classes to help me remember what was due. I was a real bumbler. Most people just laughed at me and saw me as a comedic ditz, a class clown. I found that a much better alternative to people thinking that there was something wrong with me.

I have devised many coping skills throughout the years and have learned that Post-Its are the best damn invention EVER! I try not to carry anything that I can't attach to myself, because I will set it down and walk away from it almost without fail. SSB has to folow me around in stores picking up my things that I set down and walk away from.

I am forever looking for things. More times than I can even remember, I have put things in the wrong place - the really wrong place. Like, putting the milk away in the cupboard, the car keys in the bathroom cabinet, and the remote in the fridge. And then there is the "I just had it" phenomenon, where something you just had in your possession has suddenly vanished not to be seen from again until you probably don't need it anymore or you have reached your meltdown point.

And then there is the just plain all out amnesia-like forgetting.

When I started college again after a near ten year hiatus, I had to take College Algebra. I hadn't done Algebra in 15 years. So I got a tutor. And I proceeded to drive my tutor nuts! We would go over material and by the end of the hour I could do the problems backwards and forward. He would even tell me that he didn't understand why I thought I needed a tutor.

Until, the next time that we met, just a couple days later, and I could not remember ANYTHING that we did last time. It was as if I had never seen those problems before. This happened over and over throughout the semester. I swear he was ready to pull all his hair out.

But I did get an A.

And you may be ready to say that proves that I really don't have a problem. My product is not the problem, it is the process. My mind wanders off on me and is really hard to call back sometimes leading to more work. It takes me at least two times the effort sometimes to get the same result as an "normal" person just because I have to keep redoing things, rechecking things, relearning things. And to get those above average to exceptional results takes me even MORE work! It gets really tiring and frustrating for me and those around me.

I do really well in jobs that I have to do repetitive work because after awhile, I could literally do it in my sleep. I can do the work and let my mind wander. And I get so fast at the process that I have extra time to do all the extra re-checking that I need to do.

I also do really well when it comes to thinking up new solutions to problems. I have a heightened ability to "think outside the box". This gives people the impression that I am a genius. Which would be nice except that it makes my "d'ohs" look that much worse. I know people are thinking, "How can you understand and do all these things which none of us understand, yet you can't figure out how to take all but $100 from the cash register drawer?"

Most people who get to know me just think of me as quirky. But that quirkiness of mine can get me into trouble when I am trying hard to keep a job that I have just aquired. They don't understand that I might need to do some very strange things to keep myself on track. Most employers won't give me the freedom to do what I need to do to keep things straight either.

And that is a shame for me and them. Every employer that has ever just let me do things the way that I needed to do them has been extremely satisfied with my productivity, creativity, and loyalty. Sure, they may have to deal with really silly mistakes every now and then, but what I actually get done always more than makes up for those goofs.

My current employers are great about giving me freedom and their patience. I feel very appreciated at both places even if I do still occasionally get the "do you really know what you are doing" looks...

And that brings me to the point of this post: I have recently found a blog about ADD/ADHD that makes me feel right at home. The Splintered Mind by Doug Cootey is a well written and very personal look at the "disorder" with plenty of humor, which really appeals to me. I learned a long time ago that life, especially the life abnormal, is a lot easier if you can laugh at it and yourself.

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Blogger "AG" said...

Oh this is a raw topic for me. I will keep it brief.

I am undiagnosed ADD. Had all of the symptoms as a kid. THANK GOD THEY DIDN'T PUT KIDS ON RITALIN back then. I learned to manage it and am fine. ADD and ADHD is an approach to life that can be managed. When I worked as a counselor I had clients that wanted me to refer them to a psychologist because they WANTED to have an ADD/ADHD diagnosis to "explain" things, and then they could blame it for what they do. But there is no blood test or brain scan to find it because it's a pattern of behaviors and thoughts. The point is to manage it so it doesn't manage you. (And you clearly do that!) I just can't get into seeing it as a disability. I think my "ADD" has made me a creative and industrious person. I hone it. And that's what it's all about- your level of functioning.

Sorry, I'll stop here. :)

Yay for short attention spans!

February 16, 2006 8:23 PM

Blogger "AG" said...

One other thing- I want to read this book: Delivered from Distraction : Getting the Most out of Life with Attention Deficit Disorder

February 16, 2006 8:28 PM

Blogger OldRoses said...

I've learned to do stuff when no one is looking. I can't seem to convince anyone that as long as (task) gets done correctly, it doesn't matter HOW I did it.

February 16, 2006 11:33 PM

Blogger Flubberwinkle said...

I've never been tested for ADD. I did, however, see some similiarites in my behaviour from reading your post. Lately, I've acquired an old school habit of jotting things down on the palm of my hand with a pen. Thankfully I don't have sweaty hands and I keep reminding myself errands, passwords and other stuff throughout the day. My family thinks of this as "my little oddity", but seriously, you've got me thinking.

February 17, 2006 3:08 AM

Blogger Shamus O'Drunkahan said...

I know this is a real medical condition, but it seems that ADD is often used as a "catch-all" excuse. If a kid acts up at school, it's ADD, if you have trouble focussing on something, you may have ADD.

Wait, what was I saying?

Seriously, it's kind of like when you read a book on psychosis and find yourself thinking, "I do that!"

Nobody is normal, is what I'm saying. We're all various degrees of effed up.

February 17, 2006 7:15 AM

Blogger sands of time said...

To be able to overcome difficulties on your own and learn your own coping skills shows just what a capable woman you are.

February 17, 2006 8:32 AM

Blogger Shannon said...

BRAVO! And I want to second what AG said. I HATE Ritalin...hate hate hate. I've always thought that a behavior needs to be managed and not medicated, that's exactly what you've done. HOw would you have ever gained these excellent coping skills had you been medicated?

I kind of want to high five you now, but I think it's just my morning caffeine rush kicking in.

February 17, 2006 8:52 AM

Blogger Derek Knight said...

I totally forgot what I was going to say here.

What was the post about today?

February 17, 2006 11:20 AM

Blogger DrMax said...

Syl I'm surprised at you.....not taking drugs for ADD/ADHD?! If everybody had that kind of attitude, how the heck would our poor pharmaceutical companies make any money?

February 17, 2006 11:53 AM

Blogger Otto Man said...

Do what now?

February 17, 2006 3:44 PM

Blogger Sylvana said...

AG, there are recent studies done by NIMH that show that there are actual physical differences in the brain between people with ADD and "normal" people.
For me it is a disability since it FREQUENTLY makes things far more difficult for me. And it is hard for people to understand since I look normal and otherwise act normal. They assume that I am being lazy or that I am stupid. Hence the title for my post. Some even act like I do it just to piss them off. That's my favorite reaction!
I know people that take the medications and it has made a WORLD of difference for them. I have at times considered trying it, but I hate dealing with the required visits to the psychiatrist. Even though I am going to be a psychologist eventually (researcher, not therapist), I really have a problem with most psychiatrists and therapists that I have met.
I would like to just for a little bit know what it feels like to think "normally". I wonder if it would feel like a weight being lifted, or maybe it would feel like something was missing. But in any case, I would just like to know.
That book sounds like it would be really useful. I think I will check that out. THANKS!

OldRoses, I do that too!! Then I don't have people second guessing me all while I'm doing something. And FORGET trying to explain my process!!

Flubberwinkle, the symptoms of ADD/ADHD run parallel to other things. For instance, when I was researching my son's symptoms to try to figure out how best to deal with him, I learned that the list of symptoms for giftedness are almost identical to the list of symptoms for ADD/ADHD!!
I have also learned that the symptoms of ADD/ADHD are very similar to the mental afflictions that people with fibermyalgia suffer.

Shamus, I agree that it has become a "catch-all". Child misbehaving? ADHD!! Having trouble staying on task? ADHD!! It certainly couldn't just be bratiness or boredom.
It is that eagerness to label everyone that shows the slightest similarity to the symptoms that really screws over the people that actually have it!

Pink Lady, well said. Thank you for that!

Shannon, I think the best way to handle ADD/ADHD is through behavior modification; but some people really need the medication, too. I do think that doctors and schools are way too pushy with the meds though. I'm sure you read my previous post about our battle with the school!
BTW-- I used to medicate my condition with high doses of caffeine. It actually worked pretty well. But all that caffeine was not good for me. I had to quit. So now I'm back to my muddled old self.

Derek, heehee!

DrMax, as much as I seeth about drug companies, they do bring some useful items to the public - even if they do charge a first born and a third toe for it!

Otto Man, exactly!!

February 17, 2006 9:48 PM

Blogger "AG" said...

Sylvana- I always consdier the source of a study and who has funded it (and therefore a vested interest in a certain outcome). Here's another perspective: Letters Editor, JAMA

February 18, 2006 6:34 AM

Blogger "AG" said...

Sy- I wanted to add that I don't dispute that you and I think differently- we do!! Is it challenging? Hell yeah! Where I disagree with some is the treatment method. I'm a cognitive behavioralist to the core, so it's only my perspective I'm offering. As far as my comment about not labeling it a disability, I personally find it not helpful. I prefer more empowering terms which helps frame the situation in a more positive manner. Again, that's just my approach. I respect yours.

February 18, 2006 6:52 AM

Blogger "AG" said...

And finally (see, I always hit "submit" before I finish a thought!), when I said you and I think differently and that is challenging, I meant the ADD way of things.

February 18, 2006 6:57 AM

Blogger Sylvana said...

AG, it is nice to hear how other people are dealing with ADD/ADHD. That's what I really like about Doug's blog.

And true, true, you do have to research the motivation behind a study, or even the opinion of the study. I do have several other non-NIHM studies that also show that there is a significant difference in the brains of ADHD vs non-ADHD children -- specifically a smaller right superior prefrontal lobe, smaller corpus callosum, greater right caudate, along with various other brain region differences. At least one of these studies included in their treatment group children who had never used ADHD treament drugs along with children who had. (if you want the titles of these I can get them for you. I got them from a subscribed article service, so I can't link)

I do not believe that ADD/ADHD is a brain defect. I believe that it is an evolutionary path. ADD/ADHD people were meant to excel in certain situations, so I guess we do agree in that way that it isn't a disability in and of itself. But when an ADD/ADHD person is force to live in an environment that isn't conducive to their genetics, it does become a disability of sorts. (Sort of like 7' tall people trying live in a 5'7" world. Their height can at once be both a gift and a hinderance). So I do think that if at all possible the environment of an ADHD person should be adjusted to better suit them and what they have to offer; but, I do think that if that really isn't possible or isn't making a difference alone and medications can help the person, then meds should be allowed. Not forced, just allowed.

I have several cousins that have ADHD with ODD and without the medications they certainly would be in prison right now. I think being able to function in society is worth the risks of the meds and far better than that alternative. You may be right that with the right behavioral modification they could do the same without meds, but that option hasn't shown itself to them at this time, so meds are their best option until then.

February 18, 2006 10:31 AM

Blogger Sylvana said...

Oh, and I'm totally for looking at lemons and thinking YUMMY LEMONADE!! That is the best way to approach life! ;)

February 18, 2006 10:34 AM

Blogger Lindsay Lobe said...

Hi Sylvana

Maybe it could be biochemical or structural. It was thought Winton Churchill suffered from ADHD.

I think it’s very refreshing you’re able to speak so frankly about it, as do your commentators, who I equally commend.

What it points to I think is an inner world which is different and not impoverished but also endowed with are a gift of creativity.

A neurological condition that both robs but also endows.

Elkhonan Golberg PhD Clinical Professor of Neurology at NY School of Medicine and Director of Neuropsychology and Cognitive Performance said:

On a more ordinary plane, I have often felt that the more gifted people in my personal surroundings paid a price for their talent in other areas of their mental life, and that the balance between gift and deficit is ruled by some unforgiving zero –sum equation.

From His Book “The Executive Brain”

I thought that quote sums it up.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us.

Best wishes

February 18, 2006 10:05 PM

Toe in the Water

Wednesday, February 15, 2006 | 0 Comments

The election may be in the fall, but the Republicans are already testing the waters for none other than Tommy Thompson to run against Herb Kohl to be the next WI US Senator.

Wanna know how I know? I just got a research call. The kind where they ask, "If I told you that Herb Kohl voted against your constitutional rights, specifically your second amendment right to bear arms, would that affect your opinion of him?"

Most of those questions were way less insinuating than I was expecting them to be. Most I told her would not increase or decrease my opinion of Kohl. The worst one was asking how my opinion of him would change if I knew that he voted for partial birth abortion. I told her that would most likely increase my opinion of him. She asked why. I said because it would show that he has balls to stand up for himself.

Would I vote for Tommy Thompson if he ran. I used to like him, but he's tainted to me now that he was Bush's lap-dog.

But, he did get fed up with the Bush camp and left.

Eh, I would have to do more research, I think.

If he were running against Feingold -- FORGET IT!! I love Russ!!



She asked if I was familiar with Tim Michels.

Er, no.

YOU DON'T KNOW WHO TIM MICHELS IS?! she asks as if he's Brad Pitt.
Why did she even ask me if she was so sure that I should know who he is? I told her if he was anything like that last dickhead that was ran against Russ, my opinion of him would be L-OOOW!!

I had her giggling through most of the interview. I was kind of wondering why she was working for the Republican party. Maybe it is that thing that she has for Tim Michels.

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Blogger Heather said...

I don't know who any of the political people are in my town except the mayor and that's only because my boyfriend's son has his autograph on a shirt that's hanging in the bathroom!!

February 16, 2006 4:03 AM

Blogger Sylvana said...

I love that he's got the autographed shirt, AND he has it in the bathroom.

Our mayor was a trouble making barfly. He had to go to court a couple of times for his drunken antics (one involving an alley fight with a baseball bat - he had the bat) and I think once for an incident when he wasn't drunk (that we know of) that involved a downtown shop owner and a snow shovel (or something like that).

He wasn't a very good mayor.

February 16, 2006 7:13 AM

Blogger Otto Man said...

Does Tommy T. still have that bad dye job? It looks like he dipped his head in wood varnish.

February 16, 2006 9:23 PM

Blogger Sylvana said...

Otto Man, I haven't seen him lately, but I agree that he had a bad case of helmet-hair.

February 17, 2006 4:40 PM

Blogger Sylvana said...

OMG! Tim Michels IS the dickhead that ran against Russ in the last election!!!! Sleazy, lying, little SOB!!

February 17, 2006 8:41 PM

I LOVE VALENTINE'S DAY!!

Wednesday, February 15, 2006 | 0 Comments


HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!!





Read SSB and my love story below.

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Blogger DrMax said...

Happy V.D. to you too Syl! Oh, wait, dang, I mean VALENTINE'S DAY....sometimes you have to watch your acronyms.

February 15, 2006 12:13 AM

Blogger Lindsay Lobe said...

Sylvana and SSB met one fine college day
Only eyes for one another as love had its say
They sang in the sunshine and laughed every day
Marry those sweethearts! tie the knot straight way !

The birth of that marriage was the birth of a son
For 13 years later he’s as smart as his Mom
The heart of that marriage was a new gardener’s start
For blossoms of roses for your valentine’s warm heart

February 15, 2006 4:36 AM

Blogger Sylvana said...

DrMax, if you are not careful, V-day can lead to VD.

Lindsay Lobe, that was beautiful! Thanks!

February 15, 2006 9:08 AM

Blogger sideshow bob said...

"if you are not careful, V-day can lead to VD."

You keep me in stitches, baby!

February 15, 2006 9:09 AM

Blogger Sylvana said...

SSB, you flatter me.
Don't forget to pick me up at 1:15.

And they DO call him "Ligety Split"!!

February 15, 2006 9:42 AM

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